The Tinling Family
This account is not the usual thing for these blogs. It’s
a very personal account regarding what I know about my mother’s family. It may indeed be worthy of note to
others, since the Tinlings had some lively experiences and a few connections of real general interest. I
had many personal interactions with the Tinlings – many more than with the Hoods of Tennessee and
Kentucky.
During my lifetime the senior Tinlings resided in a very nice home at
104 Scottswood Rd., Riverside, Illinois. The street behind them had a Frank Lloyd Wright-designed
house called the Coonley Estate. The entire Village of Riverside is internationally recognized as one
of the first planned suburban communities in the United States and was designated a National
Historic Landmark in 1970. The Burlington railway running
west passed through the town just to the north. The towns to the west
included the home of the famous Brookfield Zoo.
The nuclear family as I knew them were as follows:
Charles Franklin Milton Tinling - My grandfather (Big Daddy) – b.
23 Nov. 1858, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada. d. 11 May 1943, Riverside, Illinois.
Mary (Brownie Belle) Tinling (nee Gridley), My grandmother (Big Mama)
– b. 4 Dec. 1866 – Logansport, Indiana. d. 21 Mar. 1957, Riverside, Illinois.
Gladys Helen Tinling – My mother - b. 15 Aug. 1889 – Miles City,
Montana. d. 21 Feb. 1964, Denver, Colorado.
Theodore (Ted) R. Tinling – My uncle - b. 10 Jan. 1899, Washburn,
Wisconsin. d. 31 Jul. 1969, Denver, Colorado.
Virginia Tinling – My Aunt – b. abt. 11 Sept. 1900, d. 23 Mar.
1972, Denver, Colorado
There were four other members of the nuclear family of whom I have
little knowledge – except for my grandfather’s sister, Katherine. She lived in Washington D.C., and
as a child I used to get cards from her regularly. I never actually met her, but I have a photo of her
someplace. I do not know if she ever married or had any children. As far as I recall she was single. Big
Daddy had a brother, Frank, who worked with him for the railroad in Montana. I was told that he moved
to Seattle from there, and as far as I know there was little subsequent connection with the family. A
child, Jean Milton, b. 1888 in Stillwater, Minnesota, was the firstborn and died as an infant, and a
son, John Creton, b. 1892 in
St. Paul, Minnesota left home as a teenager, went to New York and
changed his name.
The family lived in Memphis for some years. My mother kept a diary in
her teen years in which she noted her basketball activities, her piano playing, going
downtown in the afternoon for a coke, and her distress at the disappearance of her younger brother, Jack.
She tells a story
of working in a music store in Memphis when W. C. Handy entered and asked her to play
some of his music. He wanted to hear how it sounded with someone else playing it. I checked
Handy’s movements on the web and found that he and his band, quite famous by that time, were
indeed in Memphis in 1906. My mother would have been about 18.
For this account I should be quite clear; my direct connections with
this family were limited to their residences in Riverside, Illinois and Denver, Colorado. Determining
when and where the various members resided has been a problem. Obviously they lived for some
time in Memphis, as that is where my mother worked in her late teens and where she and my father were
married.
I have an album of photos, many of them taken in Riverside, and a lot
at wherever they vacationed in the summer. They had a place across Lake Michigan in Oceana County,
Michigan. That may have been the location of most of their summer holidays. They show my
grandfather shooting a rifle, chopping wood and generally enjoying the great outdoors. He must have been a
very vigorous and active person, and, although an executive with the railroad, clearly enjoyed the
“rough” life. In that same album and having the same “age” feel are photos taken by my uncle Ted of
his model airplane and one with a note in his hand, “Beachy over Midway.” The very grainy photo is
clearly identifiable as a Curtiss biplane with interplane ailerons that Glen Curtiss used to avoid the Wrights’
claim of the ownership of lateral control patents using wing warping. Lincoln Beachy died in a crash in 1916 in
San Francisco. One would guess the date of this picture as 1915 or slightly earlier. Ted would have
been about 16 and clearly living in Riverside; Midway is the Chicago airfield near Riverside and the name
of a nearby east-west boulevard.
I have a formal portrait of C. F. M. Tinling that fully justifies him
being mistaken for Buffalo Bill Cody from time to time. This amused him, and he never actually set people
straight on the matter. My grandmother, Big Mama, tells two interesting anecdotes from her
childhood and youth. She said she once met Sitting Bull while traveling on a cruise boat on the
Mississippi. He was in the company of some army soldiers. He gave her a small beaded purse – regrettably
now lost. The other incident occurred later while she was aboard a lake cruise ship which became
caught in a violent storm. My mother, Gladys, her only child, an infant at the time, was with her.
Gladys had not been baptized, and Big Mama was in fear that they would sink followed the teaching of
their Presbyterian faith. So she performed the child’s baptism herself.
I had my first contact with my mother’s family at about age 10 or
11. My parents and I made the trip then to Illinois from our home in Alamosa, Colorado for an extended
visit. I do not recall the trip, but we undoubtedly traveled by train. It might have been the Burlington
Zephyr from Denver. I have a vague recollection of traveling on the Zephyr, and that must have
been the occasion. My sisters were not present. Dorothy was working, and Jean was graduated from high
school and was probably in or about to begin her college work at the Colorado Women’s College in
Denver.
The household at Riverside consisted of my grandparents; Ted, who was
employed as an architect in downtown Chicago and also had an office and bedroom in Riverside;
Wilma, the lifelong housekeeper and the cook for the family; and the dog. I don’t recall Virginia’s
presence, but I recall that she was employed at the time at Carson Pirie Scott in Chicago. They hadn’t
a bed for me, so I had a room at the neighbor’s house to the north. I have no recollection of those
people – only the accommodation that they gave me. We took all our meals in the Tinling home with Big
Daddy, an imposing figure, at the head of the table. We did go to the zoo at Brookfield, but the major
activity that seemed to engage me
was perusing a book I found in the house on how to read tea leaves. This
must have amused the adults, and I have no idea why this so intrigued me. I also have a vivid memory
of uncle Ted giving me specific detailed instruction on how to mow the lawn. Apparently that was an
assigned duty of mine while there.
There were two further occasions for me to visit Riverside. The next
was in 1943, while I was taking primary naval electronic training at Wright Junior College nearby to
the east in Chicago. I probably also visited there during my training at Navy Pier in 1944. My
grandfather died in 1943 before I came to Chicago out of boot camp, so I would have had only the one
visit to get to know him personally.
After Barbara and I were married and were living in Boulder,
Colorado, we had an occasion to visit the Riverside home during a visit to Barbara’s parents. This was in the
summer of 1949. We had our first son Jack with us. I show the picture of Big Mama, aged 83, with Jack
on her lap. Virginia and her husband Clark Austin took us all out to
dinner on that occasion, and Jack managed to throw up in the
restaurant. Ted was present and still working in Chicago.
Big Mama died in 1957, and Ted decided to sell the property, retire,
and move to Denver. This was not unusual since he got his civil engineering degree at the University
of Colorado in 1925, the year of my birth. Anyway, the
rest were in Colorado. Clark and Virginia had
already gone out to Denver a few years before.
My wife Barbara thought Ted should just marry Wilma and take her with
him into retirement. That didn’t happen. We had been in California
for six years, and I was at the Navy Electronics Lab by that time,
but we made frequent trips to Colorado and kept in close touch with
all the family. Ted moved into a retirement facility in Denver, and
Clark and Virginia had a nice modest home in east Denver. My parents’ home was at 819 Steele St. just a few blocks west of
Colorado Boulevard.
The Ted Tinling saga was not quite over. Very late in life, he did
decide to get married – to Acklyn (maiden name unknown). They moved into an apartment, and we (the rest
of the family) tried to like his new spouse. It was difficult, but then Ted always was a bit
eccentric, so we soldiered on.
The Tinling story was also not over. Gladys, died in 1964 at her
home on Steele St. Ted died in 1969, leaving Acklyn allegedly better off than she was. But we
will never know, since she disappeared – completely.
The Virginia and Clark Austin story has some quixotic twists.
Virginia was a character right out of some classic piece of humor.
She loved to give everyone a big hug and kiss whether they wanted it
or not. She had a car that would only go forward; it had no operating
reverse gear. She didn’t seem to mind. She always just looked for
parking places at grocery stores and elsewhere which had plenty of
room in front so she could always just drive straight out. She never
saw this as a problem. When Clark became very ill with cancer, he took off one day
unannounced and drove down to either Santa Fe or Albuquerque and rented a motel room in which to die. He
didn’t want to be a bother or an
expense. Virginia kept his ashes on the mantle for the rest of her
life, although she could have used the mausoleum east of Denver where the rest of the Hoods and some of the
Tinlings were buried. Ted used to say that when the rest of Denver had turned to dust, that
fabulously built mausoleum would still be standing.